Is The Lovers a yes or a no?

The answer

Yes, if it's a genuine choice — this card refuses to answer for someone still avoiding the decision.

What argues for it

It matches what you actually value, which is the only test that survives contact with a hard year.

Reversed

Part of you wants this genuinely. Another part is bargaining.

When it moves

A defining moment rather than a long process — you will know the choice was made the day you make it.

What to do about it

Choose according to your values, stated plainly to yourself, not according to what's convenient or what avoids conflict. A real choice, once made, tends to simplify everything downstream of it.

Reversed

Stop trying to have both options at once. The discomfort you're feeling is the cost of an unmade decision, and it will not go away until you make it.